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Bill McCabe..

Lost loved ones

Eskimo proverb:
 
"Perhaps those are not stars we see, but they are our loved ones who have gone before us,  shining through to tell us they are happy."

Gramma K
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"I wouldn't recommend this to anyone."

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Beautiful Topi

DAVID W. LINNEY
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My soul-brother

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Was there ever as gifted a photographer as Karl?

Kenneth Roepke, MD
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MY EULOGY FOR KEN ROEPKE, 4/3/04

 

I believe Ken scheduled me for 3 minutes and 25 seconds for the eulogy. I'll try to not disappoint him.

 

  • Children never see how much their parents love them. They only see us as the person who tells them NO and the one who corrects their mistakes. Until they are parents they never know how hard it is for us to deny them anything. The harder it is, the more stern we get.

 

You children (and I include mine who are over 40)  may not know this, but we parents love to look at you when you are sleeping. Were thinking, All those nasty things they said to us an hour ago, they didnt mean them. You all look so angelic... when you're asleep.

 

Wasnt it heart-warming to watch Ken's eye when he talked about Mary Jo and Ann Marie? He glowed, stood even a little more erect and got that persimmon-pucker to his lips whenever he spoke of them. He finally learned how to show them, too.

 

I had a friend who passed away without his children ever feeling their Dad's love. Thankfully, Ken let his love overcome his hesitancy and the word "love" came freely to him in his final months.

Ken did it his way. These lines by Paul Anka fit him to a T.

I did what I had to do And saw it through without exception
I planned each charted course Each careful step along the byway
and more, much more than this I did it my way

Yes, there were times, I'm sure you knew When I bit off more than I could chew
But through it all when there was doubt I ate it up and spit it out
I faced it all and I stood tall And did it my way

 

A hero is not the one who is never afraid, only fools are never afraid. The hero is the person who continues despite the fear. I had always thought that my Dad was fearless, and I thought I was weak when I was afraid, then I realized that he must have felt fear at times, but never let me see it.

 

Then I realized, I hadnt let my kids see my fear, either. I did not want them to grow up feeling that it was wrong to be afraid, just wrong to let it paralyze them.

 

Nothing stopped Ken when he felt he was right.

 

 

At Casa Blanca, I had a patient who complained that the Family Doc assigned to him was not professional enough. I told him, Ive got the perfect doctor for you.  He loved Ken.

When the Medical Director of Intergroup first met Ken he came rushing to me and said, Ive found the perfect guy to do your Quality Assurance. He was right and eventually that led to the Utilization work Ken did so well. Ken would not tolerate sloppy work and did not shrink from telling anyone when their work didnt come up to his expecations.

 

  • Ken was my friend Im proud of that.

 

  • Rest in the Peace of the Lord, Friend, ...your job was well done.

Mort (What do you mean that was out?) Rosen
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Crazy about animals and tennis